DAD STRONG // PRACTICAL GUIDE
Text Messages and Custody Cases.
Messages can show notice, cooperation, scheduling, or conflict, but isolated screenshots can be misleading. Preserve context and communicate as though a judge may read the exchange.
Keep messages child-focused
Discuss schedules, school, health, activities, transportation, and decisions. Avoid insults, sarcasm, threats, and arguments about the relationship.
Preserve complete threads
Export conversations when possible and keep the original device or account. Include dates, times, participant information, and surrounding messages.
Do not edit screenshots
Cropping may remove context and annotations may create authenticity disputes. Keep originals and make presentation copies only as your court permits.
Avoid account access
Do not enter another person's device or account without lawful authorization. Access and privacy laws vary by state.
Use a response routine
Pause, identify the child-related question, answer only that question, propose a practical next step, and stop when the issue is resolved.
Ask about admissibility
A local attorney can explain authentication, hearsay, discovery, privacy, and exhibit rules that apply in your court.
Preparation checklist
- Full conversation export
- Original device or account
- Date and participant details
- Relevant issue identified
- Unedited copy
- Attorney review
Where to verify the rules
Use your official state court website and local court self-help center for current forms and procedures. You can also search LawHelp.org and the Legal Services Corporation directory for local legal-aid options.
Last reviewed: July 24, 2026